This won’t be an easy post to read. It’s even harder to write.
Jeff and I walked from the church…
through crowds of cute…
beside and across streams flowing with more waste than water…
through the narrow passages of the Katwe slum…
to Sarah’s house. Last door on the right.
Home for this family of five is a five feet square concrete box. Sarah sat on the floor with her back against the wall, a little one named Ezra sleeping pantless beside her. An old blue metal toolbox served as a makeshift love seat for Dirisa and me.
He’s eleven and one of the 256 kids receiving nutrition, education, healthcare and the gospel through Compassion child development center UG561 – or Full Gospel Nsambya Church as it’s known in the neighborhood. This is how Compassion International successfully releases children from poverty in twenty-six countries around the world.
But it’s not working all that well for this family. Theirs is not a success story.
After her third child was born, Sarah’s husband abandoned her.
There was rent to pay, food to buy, sick kids to care for. Public schooling for one child would cost a third of the average slum income. But she had no income, so she turned to the church a short walk away — to Compassion.
After Dirisa was accepted into the Compassion program, things were looking up for Sarah’s family. But Compassion didn’t take care of all her needs – choosing to partner with Sarah in raising her children, not create dependence. Sarah needed to do her part to support her family.
So Sarah created a business selling merchandise on the streets. But her roadside concessions were just a cover for her prostitution. She sold herself night after night as her boys slept alone back home. One night, men robbed the house while Sarah was working, stealing mattresses and bedding and food provided by Compassion.
Sarah’s business was shutdown by the authorities, her merchandise confiscated, her financial investment lost. Pregnant with a fourth child. Her body infected with HIV.
Compassion provided her with ARVs, medicine to prevent the virus from infecting her unborn child. Ezra entered the world healthy but Sarah, not knowing how she could feed another little one, wanted “to leave him in the bushes.” Then she heard about an American who would buy her baby and put him up for adoption in the U.S. Compassion intervened, promising to enroll Ezra in their programs too. She would not have to raise him alone.
Meanwhile, Dirisa was kicked out of school after school for cutting class. He joined a neighborhood gang that sold drugs and stole from the community. “The gangs take the small ones when they are brave,” a Compassion worker said. “Then they are lost.”
This month Sarah says she can’t pay her rent. Soon she’ll be booted from her home. And it isn’t the first time.
$38 buys a child the opportunity to succeed. But there are choices to be made.
God placed Adam and Eve in abundance, walked and talked with them daily, fed them, met their every need. But then they chose…
And we still choose.
Given every opportunity, we get to choose.
A boy given books and food and faith and medicine gets to choose the kind of man he will become.
A mother given four children, a home, and so much support gets to choose the kind of mother she will be.
A blog reader with $38 gets to choose what kind of person they will be.
Sarah and Dirisa are choosing better lately. She’s enrolled in Compassion-created parenting classes. A social worker visits her home regularly to pray with her and give her wise counsel. She taking her HIV medicine every day and has stopped selling her body. Compassion found a school that would be patient with Dirisa, find a way to get him interested in learning – and he is. Mom proudly spread his schoolwork out on the floor for us to see. And because of all the hours he spends at school and the Compassion center, Dirisa doesn’t have time for the gang anymore.
These are small improvements. Theirs is not a success story yet. But there are still a lot of choices to be made.
Choose to give a child choices. Sponsor a child.
Don’t forget about all the great stories, pictures and videos from Uganda over at Emily’s, Jeff’s, Joy’s and Myquillyn’s. They’re tired in every way and wondering sometimes if anyone’s out there reading along so a kind word from you would sure help a lot. Thanks.
Kelli says:
You’re right. This one was tough to read. You told their story with grace and with…compassion.
I will add them to my prayer list now. Thank you for telling these stories, even the hard ones. The honesty only fuels the trust I have in Compassion.
Thinking of you all every day. Praying specifically now that tonight’s rest would leaved you refreshed for tomorrow.
Rebekah Hughes says:
Shaun,
I’ve been reading today’s posts by the bloggers and showing pictures to my chidden. As I read yours, my 12 year daughter said, “Mom, that’s what I want to do, I want to go there and help these children.” We pray for our own Compassion Children, that the God of the Gospel of Grace will call them to Himself. We pray that God will move our hearts to be obedient to Him to be feet to bring His Good News.
Praying for your journey in Uganda.
All to the praise of His glory.
Michele-Lyn Ault says:
Poverty is messy, and there are no easy answers or quick fixes. This line caught me…”Compassion found a school that would be patient with Disira.”
That would be patient… because it takes time, and it takes commitment. I’m learning that.
I appreciate you sharing this story. It seems surreal that I walked those same slums less than a week ago. I’m encouraged by your own journey.
Susan says:
Thank you for giving us eyes to see this story. This saddens my heart – but I have hope in humanity to write a different ending to Sarah’s story. Praying.
Sandi says:
Heartbreaking and hard to read, but there is hope in that little word…”yet”.
BeckyB says:
Thanks so much for taking us along with you and giving us a peek into how life looks for these sponsored kids… and for those still without sponsors. Praying you have a fresh dose of Holy Spirit as you finish up!
brandy says:
We’re out here reading, and praying for the trip. Thank you for telling the stories so eloquently!
Jill Foley says:
This hits home with me right now…my last two posts at Compassion Family are about the disappointment that can occur in sponsorship.
Our LDP student of two years chose to walk away from university and Compassion. It’s hard. But that’s what happens (sometimes) when you are dealing with people.
Despite the choices people make, Compassion’s presence in their lives – even for a short time – is better than none at all.
Thank you for this heart-breaking, yet honest look into reality.
Jolanthe says:
Oh Shaun – this post really does hurt to read. The opportunities can be endless, but the choices are definitely ours to make – and sadly, we often make the wrong ones.
So thankful to see that Compassion is still involved and pursuing this family {such a metaphor too for how our Heavenly Father continues to pursue us}.
Definitely a family that I will be adding to my prayers – thanks so much for sharing.
Heather says:
Thank you for sharing even the hard stories. . . shines a light on all the other stories. Amen to the conclusion… We each are given opportunity. How will we use it? For what goal? Thanks Shaun. Praying for rest & lifted spirits.
melony says:
There is this book called “Things as They Are, Mission Work in Southern India” by Amy Carmichael. Its a hard one to read too. But, why I bring it up is because that is what you have given us with this post. Things as they actually are. And honestly, this makes me want to support Compassion even more. I traveled to Uganda with another organization in 2010 and was so sad to see that they weren’t willing to be honest or transparent, only wanted their people to share the successes…..even if to do so would require a stretch of the truth.
But the other reason I am so moved by this post is because as we move in our colorado community and love on folks seemingly trapped in poverty, homelessness, drug addiction, etc…we greive over these types of choices being made over here too. I hadn’t thought of it in this way before. “Choose to give a child choices.” And I’m holding on to that wonderful little word; “yet.”
Powerful words, Shaun, thank you.
Teena says:
Thank you, Shaun for sharing. My heart is full.
Praying for all…..
Emily Herbert says:
Thank you for sharing this story.
Jeralyn says:
Dear Shaun…I have commented to Jeff and Myquillyn.
I have been following all of you as you journey in Uganda. I could not resist those sweet faces and dark eyes. I sponsored a child in Uganda this week. I have a little boy in Kenya I have sponsored for a couple of years. Be encouraged….and thank you!
Jeralyn
Sarah Silvester says:
Thanks so much Shaun for what you are doing. I’m reading all the posts and am so moved.
Lindsay says:
I’m just so thankful that Compassion isn’t giving up. I’m so thankful to learn that, even if the first school doesn’t work out and even if a child is making poor decisions, Compassion will go the extra mile to give them as much of a chance to succeed as possible. Today, I’m praying for Disira and Sarah. Thank you for letting us know their story.
Teresa says:
Thank you for your honesty. Sometimes, organizations only want to share the success stories. But when there are people involved, people who are free to make choices, there are always those moments of “un”-success as well. They are hard. Compassion has so changed so many lives, but sometimes change is hard and scary, and it’s more than someone can handle. That’s not the fault of Compassion. It’s just humanity.
karen says:
Thank you for sharing the stories, Shaun. Even the hard ones.
Angie says:
Thanks for sharing the reality – no matter what it looks like. Poverty takes so many forms and I’m so appreciative of agencies like Compassion that are willing to do the hard work to break the cycle of poverty instead of using the more favored band-aid, handout approach. While these stories are so hard to read, the likelihood of success is greater when handled this way.
Thanks for all you are doing to bring light to the variety of work Compassion does and the realities of our fallen world
Elle Woeller says:
Thank you for sharing your experiences in Uganda. I spent a summer there when I was in college, and that time (and the people I met, especially the children) will forever be in my heart. Keep up the good work!
Kris says:
My heart aches to read this. How often do I squander the opportunities God gives? There’s redemption though, and it’s beautiful, even as it is difficult. Thank you for being real about the situations you have seen, for not painting Compassion as a savior for all, as if every story is nothing but a raving success. These are real people, living in real, messy conditions, making hard choices every day. I just appreciate this so much, and I am praying for Sarah and her family, and for you and the team.
Sarah says:
Yep. Difficult story to read. I’m a Sarah. I have three children. Uncomfortable to connect with this Sarah in another part of the world, but glad to have this reality brought to my attention.
Judy Grieve says:
Thanks Shaun for you honesty. In many ways all of us are a “Sarah.” We have choices that seem to hard to make, choices that are so obviously easy but so subtly wrong. Knowing the right choices and making them often takes courage. Praise God for Compassion’s steadfast love for God’s children.
Jessica says:
I haven’t been here in AGES so, naturally, the very first post made me feel all the feels.
Sigh.
Keep up the good work.
emily wierenga says:
Thank you for the honesty, Shaun… Heartbraking.
Michelle R. says:
Never thought about blog posters wanting the comments to let them know that others are out there reading and connecting.
I’m here. Rarely comment, but I’m reading….
Kendra Burrows says:
I so appreciate what you’re doing. I have been touched by everyone’s posts. Thank you!