After I fly him to his bed like Spiderman and wrap him in a blanket like a caterpillar cocooned, I kiss his cheek and he laughs. My beard tickles.
“Again kiss,” he says. And again I kiss.
“I love you. Goodnight.”
Before I make it out the bedroom door he sits up.
“What is love you?”
My head is a flood of answers. And not a one of them fits into words.
Isn’t this the difficult job of a parent? The mystical work for all of us? To define love for all who are asking.
The next day we’re in the garage. “What dis?” he asks and reaches his hand into a box of child sponsorship packets and styrofoam peanuts. Penelope, the six year-old – relishing her new job as big sister – takes great pleasure in slowly and loudly explaining what child sponsorship is – what Daddy’s job is on the weekends.
But he’s lost interest and grabs a handful of peanuts. Then a bag full.
And he’s lost interest again. He wants to put on his new coat and for Penelope to put on hers. It’s hot outside, she explains. “Please,” he says. So she complies and compliments him on his good manners.
As she zips him up she explains that it snows here sometimes and that’s what the coats are for. And he doesn’t understand these words.
She fills a bowl with water. “Whatcha doin’?” She dabs the end of a peanut in it.
She presses the wet peanut to the glass and it sticks. She grins. He does too. Like they’ve just discovered the moon together.
Then another peanut is stuck by small hands to the door.
And another.
“Snow,” she says and he smiles his understanding.
He lowers my lens. “Snow dad!” he points.
“I see. I see.”
This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God. -1 John 4:9-10 The Message
Amy says:
Your daughter sounds like an amazing older sister.
Jennifer Eckert says:
That is awesome. Someday he will understand and may you guys get a little snow this winter so he can see it. I knew some MK’s who had that same problem because they were raised in Ghana & hadn’t been state side in winter until they were in elementary school.
JD says:
Beautiful… beautiful… beautiful.
Jenn says:
Mercy, that “Snow, Dad!” just completely undid me. I pray that he gets to call you Dad for the rest of his life.
And what a sweet sister Penelope is. She may be able to take over your Compassion job soon…
Angie says:
What a full heart you have!
My little one and I were singing along to the radio one day and she asked me “Momma what’s faith?”
Big questions from little mouths.
Brandon says:
P is wise beyond her years!
Barbara says:
Well now. I haven’t cried reading your blog for a while. Who knew that this would be the one to choke me up. Lovely stuff. God is good.
Kathy Schwanke says:
That is so sweet!!!! Who would have thought the annoying styrofoam peanuts would have a valuable use outside of a box!
And now I need to go wash my windows in case some day I need to take a photo near one for my blog…. Kudos to your window washer!
Michelle ~ Blogging from the Boonies says:
My kids scramble for the dissolvable peanuts that come when we order new packets, too!
This is such a sweet post.
Speaking of Showing Love…. For the Compassion Sponsors out there, did you know that the new letter writing tool released today? It is amazing! You can click my name to see my post that explains it in more detail.
Our letters to our sponsored children are tangible evidence to them that they are loved. Truly. So many children see a lack of letters as a lack of love.
kit says:
oh my goodness! What a beautiful moment 🙂
JessicaB says:
Love.
Kelli says:
I’m weepy and emotional today and this kind of sent me over the edge. Love it. 🙂
Katie Axelson says:
Awe! Too cute!
Katie
Jill Foley says:
What a sweet moment this is.
Kris says:
LOVE. Beautiful words, Shaun.
Beth says:
Sweet! Thanks for sharing these moments and the wisdom they contain.
Zoë says:
I often wonder how we show God’s love to those who have never known love. It is like telling them about snow when they have never seen snow.
Thank you for showing love to this dear little boy and being his daddy. Sounds like you and your family are doing a magnificent job of it.
You always make me *think* (kickstarts my lazy brain more like :$ )
Jen Guarino says:
Such a great post. Thank you for not only sharing your music with us but your life as well.
Jason says:
Absolutely beautiful! Glad things worked out with the adoption and things seem to be adjusting well.
MainlineMom aka Sarah says:
Oh my heart. This makes me all teary-eyed.
Teresa says:
I have a huge lump in my throat now. My heart is broken for this little boy that has not had a life full of love…until now. NOW his little love bank is going to overflow. Give him an extra squeeze from some lady in Indiana, and I’m going to give my daughters an extra squeeze too, even though they already had some this morning. 🙂