Peter McGraw, professor of psychology and marketing at the University of Colorado Boulder, has figured out what makes you laugh…and what doesn’t. His work has yielded a kind of grand unifying theory for all things humorous. It’s called the Benign Violation Theory.
Basically, McGraw says that we laugh when we perceive a violation has taken place that is truly harmless.
A dad on some Youtube videos gets whacked in the man parts by a toddler’s well-aimed baseball? Violation of personal dignity. But I don’t know him personally and, well, he’ll walking it off so…funny.
A preacher gets tongue-tied and says a bad word on accident? Violation of moral norms. But it was an accident so…chuckle.
A monkey scratches his hind parts, smells his finger, and falls over? Violation of social norms. No harm, no foul so…LOL.
Pedophilia? Ample violation of norms. But not benign in the least. Not funny.
When a norm is violated in a way that is harmless we laugh. That’s the extent of McGraw’s theory. But why not take it a step further?
So when you laugh you’re telling me a lot more than you may have realized. When you laugh I get a sense of what your norms are and what you consider harmless. And when you don’t…
When you laugh at yourself? Awesomely secure, confident individual.
When you laugh at a one-handed kid pictured on the Compassion International display in the lobby of our concert last night? Idiot.
When, just after that, your date asked if you’d still think she was pretty if she had only one arm? That look on your face? Hilarious.
Lindsay says:
This. post. is. awesome.
Kris says:
Spot on, Shaun. Sense of humor does speak volumes about a person. Very unfortunate about the person at the concert you mentioned. The nature of some individuals in this society sickens and saddnes me. *heavy sigh* Hopefully, God will reach that soul and change his heart.
Shaun Groves says:
He looked to be about 15. And, really, what man wasn’t a complete doof at 15? ; )
Kris says:
oh well, in that case…. ;P
Angie says:
Ok. Um, WOW.
I hope she dumped him on the way to the car.
Jason says:
Wow…I wish I could have seen the look on that guy’s face.
Kathi says:
Good for her!
FzxGkJssFrk says:
ohhh. Man.
Kelli says:
Wow. This was an awesome post. Made me laugh, then cringe, then laugh again. Sounds about par for the course when writing about a 15 year old boy. ๐
Amy says:
But there are people who tell me they laugh in awkward situations because they don’t know what to say. perhaps it is the case here?
JessicaB says:
I have no idea what my sense of humor says about me. Except that people who only understand literal punchlines probably won’t understand yours truly.
Also, I agree. Most 15 year olds are doofs. I was.