My son Gresham is eight. His cousin Nathaniel is seven. Together they’re known as “the franchise.”
Being a guitar playing singer guy without the coordination or footwear to be athletic, I had no idea what this meant. Apparently, a franchise player is one that the team can’t do without. My brother-in-law, the one with calf muscles and running shoes and a short history of playing football in middle school, educated me on this.
My father-in-law and all his brothers were linemen for the University of Arkansas, back when Arkansas won the Cotton Bowl; back when, I’m told, winning the Cotton Bowl was kind of a big deal. My dad was a gymnast at Texas A&M. I don’t remember him saying anything about being good at it or winning a bowl or anything but I’ve seen pictures and the man was ripped and suspending himself between two rings hanging from chains.
Also, my nephew from Ethiopia is the Pele of our cul-de-sac. He’s in middle school, just made the school soccer team, and plays soccer with Gresham and Nathaniel almost every day.
So, this is how a kid whose father has a body like a microphone stand becomes half of “the franchise.” Genetics that skipped a generation, and training.
Being a franchise player at age eight is hard though. I don’t know if you’ve ever watched kids play soccer between the ages of six and eight, but playing sometimes looks like picking flowers, acting like a dog or spinning around until you fall down laughing. “Play” is an amorphous term encompassing many many non-sports related activities at this age.
“The franchise” wants to win. The girl with the pink cleats and pony tails wants to twirl. The boy sitting at mid-field wants to go home and play soccer on his Wii. The goalie with his hands down his pants is actually playing with his Wii.
Meanwhile the franchise is told again and again to pass to the other kids. They’re reminded frequently that soccer is a team sport, that it’s more important to play as a team than it is to score all the goals yourself. The coach has even made a rule that the ball has to be passed before it can be shot in practice.
“But they don’t score,” Gresham says. His team is undefeated but every goal but two has been made by him or Nathaniel.
“Passing is harder than shooting,” his coach told the team last night at practice.
“Passing is harder than winning,” Gresham translated for me in the car on the ride home.
True that. Sometimes that’s the choice.
Erin M. says:
Playing with his Wii – HA!!!
And what a great lesson for them to learn at this age!
jay sauser says:
Great lesson learned man. thanks for sharing. i cracked up when you talked about the goalie and his wii! heheheheeh
Amy Tandon says:
Body like a microphone stand – HA!!!
Playing with his Wii – HA!!!
Janet Oberholtzer says:
Fun post … thanks for the laughs! I needed them today.
Melody Joy King says:
Hey Shaun,
I just stumbled upon your blog yesterday. I just want to thank you for your transparent honesty about your bout with depression. In September of 2007, I began a similar journey. Mine is a little different in that I have 1 week of severe depression, 1 week of a manic phase, and then 2 normal weeks every month. This has since been diagnosed as Bipolar Disorder. It is hard sometimes (but getting easier all the time) to be open and honest about this struggle. God has helped me realize that my reputation rests securely in his hands. While there have been some that have been pretty judgmental, there have been many more that have been loving and supportive. I pray that as I walk this road and learn to manage this disorder better each day and continue to look to Jesus, that He would be glorified. I have finally stopped fighting against this and have accepted that this is the path God has for me to walk right now. I’m finally ok with that after 3 years. God has been so faithful and kind to me throughout this journey. My prayer is that my life and my story will daily draw people to Jesus Christ, that they may come to know the incredible kindness, mercy, and freedom that I have found in Him! :0) Thanks again for sharing, I cannot tell you how encouraged and blessed I have been by your posts. It’s nice to know we’re not alone in our struggles.
~ Melody Joy
Shaun Groves says:
Praying for you today, Melody.
Kathy says:
Melody Joy – I am SO in the middle of this too, trying to navigate emotions that I know don’t make sense but feeling them anyway, and trying to ‘deal’ as best I can with a family who doesn’t quite get why I can’t be happy. Thanks for being transparent!
~Kathy
rebecca in etx says:
Hilarious
and
amazing
thanks
Bill says:
Reflecting the glory of God…through soccer…
jen says:
Oh ha ha hee hee . . . gonna be laughing about that for a while!
What a bright kid you have!
(This weekend one of my 7yos – not the Ethiopian one – fell down on the soccer field; I looked at the lady next to me and said, “Now that is my genetic material at work!” So humbling . . . and I don’t even play the guitar.)
Katie says:
This is an awesome post, Shaun! Thanks for the reminder about passing.
“Body like a microphone stand” I might borrow this…
Katie
amy in peru says:
you are a funny man.
let me just say that I appreciate that.
and I feel for the franchise; sometimes it’s brutal being the best 😉
not that I’d know…
amy in peru
Pamm says:
Love this lesson — a tough one for those of us who think WE have to do it all. An incredible lesson, too, for the one who receives a pass from a “franchise player.” That pass says that I’m valuable enough for someone to task a risk on and that whether I score or not, the passer wants me to have the experience of getting in the game. Love it!
Grins!
Jabber Jaws says:
So, if you ever need another descriptor instead of body like a microphone stand, we call that body that can’t make a shadow. As in, it is tough after you have a baby to love a man who can’t make a shadow…. I thought you should know this since you are a mom blogger.
CardsFan says:
Two thoughts immediately jump to mind:
1. Who said that kids don’t care about winning and that scores are kept for parents. I don’t keep score at my 6 year old’s game, and neither do any of the other parents. However, after each goal, my 8 and 10 year old children shout the score update like they are Howard Cosell (look him up!!). I guess reality and culture don’t always meet.
2. At my 6 year old’s last soccer game, a boy on the other team stopped at midfield, started spinning around as fast as he could, fell to the ground with an expected look of disorientation, go up, ran down the field, kicked the ball as hard as he could, and scored! Six year old soccer at its best. Who says you can’t accomplish everything in 60 seconds by age 6???