I rarely mention that we homeschool our kids. This is primarily because I want you to like me and, let’s face it, home schoolers are one of the few groups it’s OK (and easy) to make fun of these days. Two words folks: Denim jumper.
I also don’t mention it much because I have my doubts about homeschooling for two reasons. You see, we homeschool mostly because if we didn’t, with my schedule, I’d never see my kids. We’re not anti any other kind of schooling. At all. And I sometimes wonder if homeschooling is worth the work if you’re not doing it to avoid something really scary. Like prom or organized sports.
Secondly, I have some very bright friends, excellent parents, who express their concern that by homeschooling I’m sheltering my kids. I’m sheltering them from “real life,” I’m told, from meeting people with an entirely different world view from them. I’m taking from them the opportunity to hear viewpoints that differ from those of their family and I’m robbing them of the opportunity to make the difficult but necessary decision to believe and behave differently from those around them.
And I buy this. I totally get it. And it’s worried me. Until yesterday.
My two oldest go to this co-op thing two days a week called an “academy.” It’s really just a place to be with other (homeschooled) kids, learn to take instruction from someone other than mom and dad, and do things you can only do in a group…like put on a Christmas musical.
Before the musical started yesterday, we were all told by the MC that its writers had no idea when they wrote it that “at the end of 2008 America’s political climate would change the way it has.” And then the lights dimmed and the heartwarming story of an “homogenous” and “politically correct” America celebrating “the holiday” in the year 2058 began.
In the story, only a few Christians knew anything about Jesus, Joseph and Mary. Christianity was illegal. These few had the tough job of convining the highest government official they could access – a mayor with a British accent – to “worship the Father” and make him “Lord” of his life. Which he did after a little finger pointing, pounding on his desk, and a protest in a city park involving a Christmas tree and a handful of kids gathering to take back the country for Jesus. Also, they got the biggest newspaper in town to cover the protest. Also, my kids sang two songs. Also, it was a very well written and acted little production. I even teared up a little once. Seriously.
Then the MC came out again and told us to say “Merry Christmas” to anyone who greets us with “Happy Holidays” this year and told us that America is becoming increasingly more European and increasingly more “evil” – two things that apparently go hand in hand. Then we were reminded to “speak out” and “stand up.” She said this is being a light in the darkness. If we don’t do this, she said, we could lose Christmas altogether.
It was at that moment I realized I’m doing something to my children as dangerous as exposing them to a bunch of public schoolers with cable in their bedrooms and swear words in their mouths. I’m exposing my children to American Constantinian Evangelicalism. And daily they have to choose what they believe, they have to remain calm and confident, while being taught by (some) folks who believe the sky is falling faster now that Barak Obama is heading for the Whitehouse. Living in the Bible belt, that’s about as real world as an education can get my friends.
Here’s hoping they remember the Christ born under Roman rule to the powerless and persecuted, and the Church throughout the world that has weathered darker days than these.
Deets Johnson says:
Yes, the church has weathered darker days. In fact, the church even survived a time when Christmas wasn’t a part of the calendar.
Thanks for your comments.
Kelli says:
Amen, Shaun.
Lisa in ME says:
I had to comment. I also homeschool & have for since my oldest was five – he’s now 12. To anyone who asks about how sheltered they are…I like to say this…Yup, absolutely. My kids are sheltered. I control who they see, where they go & who they interact with and I’m okay with that. They are just kids. I don’t want them to be exposed to the evil of the world at this young age. I want to TEACH them about Jesus & how to react to that evil. So when they are all grown up they can hold their own out there. They can tell people about Jesus. They will know the answers. I’m okay with having sheltered kids.
Grovesfan says:
On Sunday, our pastor talked about the vital importance of the virgin birth in keeping the TRUTH of Christ alive during the Christmas season. If we are willing to dismiss this piece of scripture as untrue, or mere symbolism, then it becomes much easier to dismiss the rest of scripture as well.
While I don’t get defensive if someone wishes me “happy holidays” instead of “Merry Christmas,” I do reply with Merry Christmas instead. Except if it’s someone who I know happens to be Jewish and then I wish them “Happy Hanukkah.”
Beth
Seth Ward says:
Because “Holiday” is just so evil… Maybe we should be reminded by people like Spurgeon that not too long ago, Evangelical Protestants thought to celebrate Christmas (a Roman Catholic “Holiday”) was pretty much Satanic.
Spurgeon on Christmas:
“We have no superstitious regard for times and seasons. Certainly we do not believe in the present ecclesiastical arrangement called Christmas: first, because we do not believe in the mass at all, but abhor it, whether it be said or sung in Latin or in English; and, secondly, because we find no Scriptural warrant whatever for observing any day as the birthday of the Savior; and, consequently, its observance is a superstition, because not of divine authority.” (Charles Spurgeon, Sermon on Dec. 24, 1871).
“When it can be proved that the observance of Christmas, Whitsuntide, and other Popish festivals was ever instituted by a divine statute, we also will attend to them, but not till then. It is as much our duty to reject the traditions of men, as to observe the ordinances of the Lord. We ask concerning every rite and rubric, “Is this a law of the God of Jacob?” and if it be not clearly so, it is of no authority with us, who walk in Christian liberty.” (from Charles Spurgeon’s Treasury of David on Psalm 81:4.)
It is kind of funny to me that in the not-too-distant past, the most prominent Protestant pastor in the world was the one telling everyone to halt their “Merry Christmas-ing”
On that note, Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!!!!
Megan says:
I don’t buy it for a second. You look great in your denim jumper and I don’t want to hear another word about it.
*giggle*
Just kidding. Really, what you said was well said, so thanks for saying it.
Signed,
Proud Member of the Jeans Wearing Homeschooling Mamas Who Read Another Translation of the Bible Besides KJV.
Shelley says:
Gee and I always thought the word holidays came from Holy Days. I posted on my blog recently about how I wish Merry Christmas was not in store advertisements. I really don’t think shopping and Christmas need to be associated with each other.
If Christianity becomes suppressed under the new politics it might be just what we need to light a fire under our butts to get out there and love people. I have sent Bibles to Russia because they let people who visit their schools hand them out and yet Bibles are no longer welcome in most American schools, go figure.
Texas in Africa says:
Wow. Glad kids out there are learning that their faith should always be dependent on what the Wal-Mart checker says to them when they’re buying sweatshop-produced t-shirts and a box of kleenex.
I’m not a fan of homeschooling, but respect each family’s right to make that decision for themselves. I’m glad that my parents sent us to public school for the express purpose that we would learn to get along with people who are very different from us. It’s a skill that has served me well in life.
Karen Hokanson says:
I’m a lurker, but amen and amen. In our attempts to “control our outcome”, we diminish the power of Jesus to do what He does best! LOVE! God has already won the battle, despite our misguided attempts to help Him!
Karen in CA
kim says:
ohhhh….. I completely get this. Our kids have been attending a Christian school, and while I’m extremely grateful we are a part of this school, I do find it tricky to explain to my 10 year old how & why we don’t necessarily agree with the alarmist stream within the Christian community. Some of the alarmists have even stopped wearing the denim jumpers and are opting for, like, normal clothes. So now it’s harder to identify them. Until about 3 words into a conversation during a presidential campaign.
Thanks for this post.
Stretch Mark Mama says:
Okay! The key words are not just “denim jumper.” They’re “denim jumper” AND “barrette.”
AND the secret handshake!
We homeschool and recently moved from the Midwest to the Pacific Northwest—boringly enough—the evangelicals in those two regions are NOT one and the same. I have a number of Christian friends who voted for (!!!) Obama. So the alarmist thing is kinda shocking to me now.
LOL, prom and organized sports.
Veretax says:
Good post Shaun. My wife and I decided to in essence divorce ourselves from the usual Christmas craze. I’m tired of waking up at X AM in the morning, rush through opening present’s at her moms, then before we are done, get the nagging call from my mother wondering if we’ve left for her mothers. SO we wrap up as quickly as possible, enjoy nothing but a quick breakfast, and off we go to grandmas, and do what? sit there waiting for the rest of the family to show up, who then when it comes time to exchange gifts are so loud that I end up with more of a headache than a joy.
As I often tell my wife, I’m not buying the store it up for Christmas routine. If its in my power to do good or give a gift to someone that they can use now, I see no reason to wait until Christmas.
(We did the same thing for thanksgiving this year, and it was the BEST thanksgiving I’ve had since I was in secondary school. Stress Free Hallelujah!)
Shelley says:
And Shaun, I was just curious about who made your denim jumper and what you paid for it. Ya know, were you a good steward of your money and thus bought it from a company that employs children who work under terrible conditions and get paid nothing, or did you buy a horribly expensive jumper made by American union laborers and thus waste money that could have been used to dig a well somewhere?
Just kidding, as you were the first person to get me to ponder such questions and wonder what the right answer is, but for real, I don’t ever wear a denim jumper and I have one in public school one in homeschool (for educational, not religious reasons) and one former public schooler now on the mission field, and I’m really glad to see in your pictures that you don’t wear a denim jumper either….that would be disturbing, on so many levels. LOL
Sabrina says:
I was homeschooled from 2nd grade through 12th. I am 28 years old now and would not give anything for my years at home with mom and dad teaching me right from wrong, along with math and science.
I think homeschooling is a calling. There’s this misconception that families that homeschool look down on other families that don’t. It’s not true. God called us to do it. We did, and we received the full benefits from it. Others attend various other schools and they are just as in the center of God’s will for their lives as we were.
Speaking of the “real world”, kids are smarter than you think. Homeschool kids see plenty of the real world, especially us PKs. We just learn to deal with it through our parents guidance. We were always able to get along with people very different from us, because we were rarely with people from our own “grade”.
Thanks for the post.
Racer says:
As a mom considering homeschooling next year (my girl is in 1st grade) it is a good reminder that ultimately, I have to be aware of the exposure of things I don’t believe in on either side.
susan says:
Hmm – too European huh? Need to let them know there are some God-fearing, Christ followers in Europe. Some of them aren’t even American. It’s true!
And Thank Goodness we don’t have to worship our President as Father of our Faith. Trust in God, not man. I appreciate your views on this matter.