Eight men in bright orange t-shirts, combat boots and cargo pants encircled us as we walked to Daniel’s house from the church that serves as his Compassion project. A few minutes into the journey paved streets turned into rocky paths and steep descents.
Dogs everywhere. Voodoo has crept across the border from Haiti and with it the belief that demons take the smallest living thing they find in a home. Having a dog around is spiritual defense.
Sewage everywhere. There is no plumbing in Daniel’s neighborhood. The toilet is any place a person can find a little privacy. Waste is washed into the rocky pass we walked and eventually makes its way to the river that is Daniel’s backyard.
Danger everywhere. Some of the houses in Daniel’s neighborhood are used by drug traffickers to sort and package their goods. The presence of white-skinned visitors makes them nervous – dangerously so. Poverty also creates desperation that can lead otherwise kind people to steal, and hurt in the process.
Several minutes into the heart of Daniel’s neighborhood on foot, suddenly, our entourage in orange was joined by two military men in camouflage carrying automatic rifles and wearing black berets. After a brief back and forth, the two men with rifles disappeared and the men in orange fanned out from us. We were waved ahead after a few minutes of standing still. And the next minute we stopped again and waited for yet another signal to continue walking forward again.
“Are we in danger?” I asked.
“People who live here are not in danger because they have nothing of value to take,” our translator explained. “But some people may think you have something valuable they can sell.”
“Like a huge camera?” I asked. And we smiled nervously at each other and walked on to meet Daniel.
Daniel’s grown up in danger like this. To him it’s not his biggest problem. Loneliness is. His mother was just released from prison for drug trafficking and his father is still there with no date of release set. Daniel lives with his grandmother most of the time while hi mom looks for work or does the odd job here and there.
Daniel is tall and well-muscled for an eleven year-old and with much greater stamina than I have. After a couple miles of steep climbing in the noonday sun, I found a place in the shade for us and we sat, drank bottled water and talked about his life and what Compassion means to him. The conversation eventually turned to his sponsor. Daniel said his sponsor is a man named Benny who has written him once in the last four years. “Do you write Benny?” I asked. “All the time,” he said.
After hearing about all the care Benny’s $32 a month provides for Daniel – education, nutrition, friendships, spiritual mentoring, medicine – I asked Daniel, “If Benny were here, what would you tell him?” I expected some variation on “thank you.” Instead, Daniel looked into our camera and said, “Write to me, please.” And that’s all.
He reads the letters other kids get from their sponsors. He envies them.
Daniel needs Benny’s words to carry him in this dark place more than Benny realizes.
Grovesfan says:
Mary received her first letter from Eva today. She’s the little girl Mary chose from those packets you brought to ND in Feb. She’s only 4 so she didn’t write the letter herself, but the drawing on the back of the letter is definitely hers. Clouds, a bright orange sun, a house shaded by a large tree and decorated with a row of pretty flowers. Two children playing in the yard. Much the same type of drawing that Mary would create. My two little girls are forever entwined through the love of Jesus. Relationships are what Compassion is really all about. We are so very blessed to be able to write to our precious children who do not share our home, but share our hearts and our Lord.
Beth
Bush says:
wow…it’s amazing what our words can mean to someone. thanks for this.
Jai says:
Thanks Shaun .. Daniel reminds me of my 11 year old son .. speaking a special prayer for him and for Benny to pick up his pen and write …
Is there anyway my family can write to him even though he has a sponsor?
Looking forward to more info from the DR.
Sister Honey Bunch says:
Is there a way a non-sponsor could write him or other children who need a positive note on a regular basis?
Krista says:
Some years ago I had the opportunity to tour Compassion’s headquarters. When we got to the translation department one of the employees told me something I have never forgotten. Only 25% of sponsors ever write to their children. I couldn’t believe it. I guess giving your money is a lot easier than giving a few minutes of your time once every 3 or 4 months? Wow. So sad. I wrote before, but since then I have made sure I respond to every letter my child sends and then some.
Tisha says:
Thank you so much for this post. I often let life come before writing my sponsor child and I needed to read this today. I just wrote to both of our children and really need to be doing this once a month, not once a quarter.
Brian Seay says:
Great post reminding us that it is so much more than money. The money is just one currency that delivers hope but the personal touch cannot be overstated enough! A Compassion child is matched up with just one sponsor, not several ones, so there is a great need to connect with that child through letters and encouragment.
My family writes 3 Compassion children in addition to the ones we sponsor. If you would like to stand in the gap between the sponsor and child today and become a correspondent with a child that is sponsored but not getting letters, please email me at .
Krista – just a word of encouragement about the letter writing. I am not in front of the report but I believe the percentage of letter writing sponsors rose to almost 70% last year. Better, but still plenty of room for improvement.
Great post, Shaun.
Kelly @ Love Well says:
This broke my heart. Shattered it, more accurately.
Money isn’t alway the answer, is it?
Jenny Smith says:
Thanks for the reminder! And I’m praying Benny write soon!
Jen
faithful chick says:
Thanks for these words. I always wondered if the letters make a huge difference and now I know.
Jamie Ivey says:
thanks for this reminder. we just got our first letter from our child this past week and I’m going now to respond to her.
thanks.
jamie
connorcolesmom says:
Oh that makes me so sad
We write to and send our little guys stuff all the time but I have never thought about it from Daniel’s perspective
WOW
Thank you for the reminder
God bless,
Kim
Shanda says:
I’ll be honest. We don’t write to our sponsored children like we should. I let other things get in the way and I rationalize and make excuses.
There is no excuse. So I am not going to make one here. I’m guilty. Going to write now.
Tyler says:
Hey Shaun-
where in the DR were you?
Shaun Groves says:
Not sure, Tyler. I’m a bit geographically challenged, to be honest. We began in Santo Domingo. And we visited Bonao (were the mining community was). I’m not sure what third city we were in.