We flew to North Carolina, drove three hours to the first gig of the weekend in Virginia. It was a gathering of Baptist youth groups from the region. Not my usual audience. I sang a few songs, spoke a few words and left wondering if I connected, if I served the students well, if I made the most of the opportunity. Maybe I should have…
Then on to Knoxville. Six people showed up for the concert so we moved the “show” to a more “intimate” setting, a classroom down the hall from the church’s sanctuary. We sat in a circle of folding metal chairs, told stories and played songs. I didn’t know what to do or say all night. I left thinking maybe I should have…
Next, I preached at a wonderful church in Winston-Salem. I taught something I’ve never taught before. I wasn’t sure how long it would take to deliver it. I went long the first service. A little better the second service. I should have…
Along the way I met up with a friend who works with Christian radio. He told me he’d talked with a guy recently who was still upset over something I said in an article printed five years ago. I’m still angry that the editor of that interview misrepresented me like that. When the journalist called I should have…
I came home to kids eager to play. The youngest hugged me around one thigh, looked up and said, “You go singing a lot, Dad.” I remembered my mom telling me years ago to get an education certificate just in case. I probably should have…
I lost a weekend to pride.
I spent far too much time in the past and extended myself far too little grace.
That’s it. No more.
I will not should on myself.
How about you?
Lindsay says:
((hugs)) and Thanks.
Becky says:
This is exactly the. Estate I needed to hear right now. Thank you!
Melissa Scott says:
Thank you for your vulnerability. I know the lure of “should haves” – powerful, terrible little words! Please know that, at least in Virginia last weekend, there were no “should haves.” I had a great conversation with my youth – middle school boys, even! – about the message you shared through word and song. I so appreciate your ministry!
Jonnia says:
You just hit me right between the eyes in the middle of shoulding all over myself. Ugh!
Thank you.
Matthew W says:
A high school friend/college roommate always told me, “woulda, coulda, shoulda… Can’t play that game. ” Advice that I appreciated very little then and very much now.
Melinda Lancaster says:
Oh how I can relate. Sigh.
Amy says:
We shouldn’t, so why do we do that to ourselves?
Guilty.
Zoë says:
For years I used to wake in the night consumed with guilt and ‘I should’. I have learned it doesn’t come from God. He tells me I’m forgiven.
I had to ask myself: do I spend more time worrying than loving?
Shaun, if you’d ever like to visit the birthplace of Wesley, you’ll find a warm welcome and no ‘shoulds’ 🙂
Christine says:
I’m about nine years older than you. Believe me, this gets better in the forties. You’ll feel more humble and more confident. Funny how a little more humility brings more confidence. Not that you have a problem with humility now…that’s not what I’m saying.
Consider yourself prayed for.
Molly Piper says:
“Stop shoulding yourself!” That’s the piece of advice that goes around our small group often. 🙂
Angie says:
As a mom I have struggled with that- and now branching out into speaking/teaching I find myself being easily ensnared in that trap.
Really it’s just pride. One more way for Satan to steal my focus away from the Lord.
Keep pressing on, Friend! You DO AMAZING KINGDOM WORK! Whether it’s for an audience of 6 or 600!
shayne says:
You. were. in. Knoxville????
When?
Geez I coulda shown up and plumped the audience up (way way up) to at least 7.
Oops. That’s a good little should-pile right there. Here…let me just clean that up for ya…
‘Scuse the mess…still in training over here.
😉
Dwayne says:
Ya we so easily think so critical of our actions instead of truly doing like Jesus did………live in the moment……..and not wory about the ‘whats’ ‘ifs’ and ‘maybe s’! Lets grab the moment and make it thebest we can and let Jesus take care ofthe details!
sandi says:
So very much what I needed after a day of “shoulding” myself. Thank you.