By: Tony

Tony — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 13:20:25 +0000

Shaun,
You sound a lot like me. My family and I have experience some losses in our lives the last few years. We have lost both of our best friends who were married. Danica died of cancer when she was 28 back in Nov, 2006. Mike died on a motorcycle May, 2007 when he was 31. I experience great loss and suffered from depression. I went through couceling. I listened to my wife and nothing really worked for a year or more. I was put on meds until recently I have gotten off them with the help of a new doctor. It took a few years but I finally got back to almost normal. I was leading worship again and all was good. Since Mike had died me and my other best buds relationship started to take a turn due to some comments I had made to his wife. Although they were in front of him and my wife they were not appropriate. A Christian husband, father and worship leader should not say those kinds of things. Back to what happened. A few years went by and we barely talked. They lived in front of us then. One day about 8 months ago I asked Him to go running with me and we had a difficult conversation. He informed me that our friendship was hurting his marriage. I didn’t understand why. He told me remember a few years ago you use to pick with my wife about certain things and I said, Yes. He said well she use to come home and talk with me about it and I would just tell her, ” You know he is just kidding around”. He said I realized that I was choosing you over my wife. I should have told you sooner but, I didn’t. We decided to move on without being friends. It has not been easy for me but, I have. We left our church to help plant another church. I thought I was doing the right thing for my family. We left to get away from being uncomfortable. During this time was felt a call to adopt from Ethiopia after my wife got back from a trip with Compassion. She is an advocate for them. We got an email from someone we barely knew. It said “be ready because now that you are doing something you feel God is leading you to do with this adoption, the devil is coming after your family. Be ready”. Crazy right? No, not crazy. Since then we have had to leave the plant church and have really been uncomfortable in church. We have no church family and trust noone. Well, except God. We tried this past Easter Sunday to go back to our church we left and had our guard up the whole time. Whoever it was that sent us that email was right. He has come after us hard and taken the one thing that has always been constant in our life. Our Church. Something that happened over two years ago has gotten us to a point to where we just don’t like Church, or fake Christians anymore. We have lost friends, our church and our trust for others. Reading your comment about the girl from school reminded me of our situation. I know God is going to heal things. He has already put things into motion. We will be praying for you and your family. Please do the same for ours. God Bless

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By: Tony