Comments on: 456 Words

By: Liza Peterson

Liza Peterson — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 18:42:43 +0000

I found this interesting as someone who wants to go into counseling and My thoughts then ran back to the discussion I had on Sat in my groups Therapy Grad Class on Reality therapy, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reality_therapy

If I think in terms of a client coming to me with a problem, say a drug addict and I help them get clean and send them on their way but don’t ask questions that may lead to a HUGE piece of the puzzle, say abuse then their coping skills will prob lead them back into their addiction...may end up showing its self in a different way but it’ll be there.

If you ask me the evidence Shaun has given us means all the more why a counselor MUST get to the bottom of it all by asking questions about the client’s childhood! I will in no way say I’m opposed to reality therapy, in fact maybe 2/3 of this theory I agree but I can not in any way keep my mouth shut and let someone go out only to be back in my, or someone else’s, office with the same problem, only manifested in a different way.

By: euphrony

euphrony — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 16:50:08 +0000

Thanks, Shaun. I know how you bib-time soft rock stars have inboxes that require supercomputers to keep up with.

By: Shaun Groves

Shaun Groves — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 16:36:00 +0000

Just now catching up on e-mail, Euphrony. I’ll get to it soon, I promise. Thanks for your patience.

By: euphrony

euphrony — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 16:16:58 +0000

Very true. I don’t know that I had ever seen such statistics explicitly, but the results have been taken as common knowledge for years by many.

And it reminds me that my daughter and I were supposed to write our sponsored child this past weekend. Maybe tonight we’ll have a little time.

Oh, and did you get my e-mail from a couple of days ago? It’s about Inspired to Action.

By: Judith Tremblay

Judith Tremblay — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 01:00:17 +0000

I have heard this before, and I have some sad observations to add. A kindergarten teacher shared that one of her students would come to school ready to start a fight. Once he threw a girl down on the ground and stood over her, ready to hit her. He’s been taught by observation that it’s okay for a man to hit a woman–he’s imitating both his father and his grandfather. This is a five-year-old. It would be difficult to retrain him, even at this young age.

By: Grovesfan

Grovesfan — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 21:02:57 +0000

I hadn’t read these statistic before, but they do make sense. I assume that most parents think they’re kids are pretty special and also very cute. I know I do (well, the teenagers get less “cute”, but you get my drift). Anyway, in one of my first letters to our little boy Wedner (he lives in Haiti), I told him how handsome I thought he was. I honestly wasn’t trying to pass on empty flattery, etc. I do think he’s very handsome. When I received his reply, he asked me if I really thought he was handsome and why I thought so. I got the impression he’d not heard that before. I gave him many reasons why in my next letter.

Now I am very mindful to tell all my children different encouraging things about them every time I write. I’ve noticed a change in their letters as well. They seem to open up more and they want to find out more about us too.

I love all my “babies” and try to tell them so often.

By: Noelle

Noelle — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:13:52 +0000

Thanks for the reminder to write my child.