Comments on: Recollection And Conviction In The Driveway http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/ Official site of Shaun Groves - musician, speaker, advocate for children living in poverty Thu, 24 May 2012 04:50:41 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Jessica http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4152 Jessica Sun, 12 Oct 2008 04:00:02 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4152 <p>Just so you know, Shaun… your words WILL stick with her, especially when no one else will. Continue to tell her what you see in her… even when she doesn’t agree, even when she’s “too old for that”, and even when you don’t think it would make any difference. It does. I promise. </p> Just so you know, Shaun… your words WILL stick with her, especially when no one else will. Continue to tell her what you see in her… even when she doesn’t agree, even when she’s “too old for that”, and even when you don’t think it would make any difference. It does. I promise.

]]> By: Shaun Groves http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4151 Shaun Groves Thu, 09 Oct 2008 02:12:43 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4151 <p>Yes, Becca, but two days a week my two oldest go to a school for homeschoolers (weird sounding when you say it that way). </p> Yes, Becca, but two days a week my two oldest go to a school for homeschoolers (weird sounding when you say it that way).

]]> By: Becca http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4150 Becca Thu, 09 Oct 2008 02:05:08 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4150 <p>Just curious...don’t you homeschool? </p> Just curious…don’t you homeschool?

]]> By: Bonnie http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4149 Bonnie Wed, 08 Oct 2008 20:07:23 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4149 <p>I read the end, and I got it. But I have to agree that your description of your moment of honesty with your daughter eclipsed the point you were trying to make.  My father is the much stronger influence in my life. (not that my mom isn’t awesome) He was always telling his daughters how pretty we are, or how smart, or kind or whatever. I still remember those words as an adult and I’m amazed at how much more it means to me now. As an adult, I also recognize how his “faults” manifest themselves in my own life. </p> <p> So, I guess you gave your daughter two very different gifts in that one encounter. </p> I read the end, and I got it. But I have to agree that your description of your moment of honesty with your daughter eclipsed the point you were trying to make.  My father is the much stronger influence in my life. (not that my mom isn’t awesome) He was always telling his daughters how pretty we are, or how smart, or kind or whatever. I still remember those words as an adult and I’m amazed at how much more it means to me now. As an adult, I also recognize how his “faults” manifest themselves in my own life.

So, I guess you gave your daughter two very different gifts in that one encounter.

]]> By: Shaun Groves http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4148 Shaun Groves Wed, 08 Oct 2008 19:21:08 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4148 <p>Totally, Seth.  Normal reaction.  “Natural.” It’s my nature that twists a Father’s love into arrogance. </p> <p> (How’s that for subtle leading of the proverbial horse to water?) </p> Totally, Seth.  Normal reaction.  “Natural.” It’s my nature that twists a Father’s love into arrogance.

(How’s that for subtle leading of the proverbial horse to water?)

]]> By: Seth Ward http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4147 Seth Ward Wed, 08 Oct 2008 19:12:46 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4147 <p>Yeah, but don’t you think it may be easier to monitor a bit of overflowing pride now, rather than her never knowing how much her Dad thinks of her and she, being brand new to the self-esteem onslaught, having to look elsewhere for that approval?  (A not-parent to parent question.) </p> <p> Sounded like a normal reaction to something that made her feel really good.  Unfortunate normal tendency for us all to do.  We feel like a good faithful son or daughter and we get addicted to the feel-good.  I suppose it is the yin to the yang in parenting positive encouragement in love.  Sheesh, scares the crud out of me sometimes… How do you balance that?  </p> <p> I heard a testimony last night at the Redeemer Recover group by a woman who grew up with the most horrible father imaginable.  Won’t go into it, but the words of a father to a daughter are powerful because they believe you. </p> Yeah, but don’t you think it may be easier to monitor a bit of overflowing pride now, rather than her never knowing how much her Dad thinks of her and she, being brand new to the self-esteem onslaught, having to look elsewhere for that approval?  (A not-parent to parent question.)

Sounded like a normal reaction to something that made her feel really good.  Unfortunate normal tendency for us all to do.  We feel like a good faithful son or daughter and we get addicted to the feel-good.  I suppose it is the yin to the yang in parenting positive encouragement in love.  Sheesh, scares the crud out of me sometimes… How do you balance that? 

I heard a testimony last night at the Redeemer Recover group by a woman who grew up with the most horrible father imaginable.  Won’t go into it, but the words of a father to a daughter are powerful because they believe you.

]]> By: Shaun Groves http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4146 Shaun Groves Wed, 08 Oct 2008 18:18:48 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4146 <p>It’s my wife’s fault.  Originally I ended with “In seconds love birthed arrogance.” Much clearer I think.  But harsh.  Way harsh to say about my own child.  Becky thought “my pride became hers” was just as clear (that Gabriella went from being a source of my well-placed pride to becoming prideful herself) without calling her names. </p> <p> But it’s apparently not clear at all.  Oh well.  I get 365+ posts a year.  I’m bound to screw up a few right?  I blog partly to learn how to write better.  I’m learning. </p> It’s my wife’s fault.  Originally I ended with “In seconds love birthed arrogance.” Much clearer I think.  But harsh.  Way harsh to say about my own child.  Becky thought “my pride became hers” was just as clear (that Gabriella went from being a source of my well-placed pride to becoming prideful herself) without calling her names.

But it’s apparently not clear at all.  Oh well.  I get 365+ posts a year.  I’m bound to screw up a few right?  I blog partly to learn how to write better.  I’m learning.

]]> By: Grovesfan http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4145 Grovesfan Wed, 08 Oct 2008 17:23:05 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4145 <p>Is there something wrong with having pride in your children?  You didn’t indicate that this pride in Gabriella was due to anything you said you did to make her that way.  I think God is proud of her too. </p> Is there something wrong with having pride in your children?  You didn’t indicate that this pride in Gabriella was due to anything you said you did to make her that way.  I think God is proud of her too.

]]> By: Shaun Groves http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4144 Shaun Groves Wed, 08 Oct 2008 16:51:17 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4144 <p>OK, sure, sweet and what not but did you catch the end?  Pride?  Anyone?  Bueller? </p> <p> Back to the drawing board.  Er, laptop. </p> OK, sure, sweet and what not but did you catch the end?  Pride?  Anyone?  Bueller?

Back to the drawing board.  Er, laptop.

]]> By: Paloma http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4143 Paloma Wed, 08 Oct 2008 16:18:01 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/10/recollection-and-conviction-in-the-driveway/#comment-4143 <p>That’s such a beautiful picture of a father’s love. So many times when I was younger I would kind of brush off what my dad said, thinking he was just “being a dad”. <br /> But as a get older and think of having children some day, I realize the weight of those moments, and how important it really was for him to express those kinds of things. <br /> Thanks for sharing. <br /> You and your daughter(s) (and son) are blessed to have one another! </p> That’s such a beautiful picture of a father’s love. So many times when I was younger I would kind of brush off what my dad said, thinking he was just “being a dad”.

But as a get older and think of having children some day, I realize the weight of those moments, and how important it really was for him to express those kinds of things.

Thanks for sharing.

You and your daughter(s) (and son) are blessed to have one another!

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