Comments on: Expectations http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/ Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:36:45 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rachel Phillips http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6071 Rachel Phillips Wed, 18 Jun 2008 19:05:57 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6071 <p>A friend just pointed me to your blog and this post in particular.  I think you bring up some great points, and I love your examples.  Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your life to benefit others. </p> <p> I once heard that frustration stems not from having too high expectations but from the GAP between your expectation and the reality.  Either way, they blend together and are up to us to change and reevaluate. <br /> Thanks again. <img src="http://www.shaungroves.com/images/smileys/smile.gif" width="19" height="19" alt="smile" style="border:0;" /> </p> A friend just pointed me to your blog and this post in particular.  I think you bring up some great points, and I love your examples.  Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your life to benefit others.

I once heard that frustration stems not from having too high expectations but from the GAP between your expectation and the reality.  Either way, they blend together and are up to us to change and reevaluate.

Thanks again. smile

]]> By: Cinde http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6070 Cinde Tue, 17 Jun 2008 03:03:26 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6070 <p>Wow - once again you got me thinking!  I agree that working at home with kids is prime turf for frustration.  I guess my way of coping is also lowering expectations which most often means cutting the to-do list, prioritizing projects, asking for help and accepting less than perfect (my way) results. </p> Wow – once again you got me thinking!  I agree that working at home with kids is prime turf for frustration.  I guess my way of coping is also lowering expectations which most often means cutting the to-do list, prioritizing projects, asking for help and accepting less than perfect (my way) results.

]]> By: Lisa http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6069 Lisa Mon, 16 Jun 2008 20:47:52 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6069 <p>Found you on Shannon’s Saturday link list, too, and am impressed with the simplicity AND the difficulty of this solution to common human “blowout.” Hard, but hits a deep spot of truth.  I guess I have a responsibility to try this method out now, don’t I? </p> Found you on Shannon’s Saturday link list, too, and am impressed with the simplicity AND the difficulty of this solution to common human “blowout.” Hard, but hits a deep spot of truth.  I guess I have a responsibility to try this method out now, don’t I?

]]> By: Genny http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6068 Genny Sat, 14 Jun 2008 23:06:26 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6068 <p>Great thoughts!  So glad I stopped by. (found this through Rocks in My Dryer...) </p> Great thoughts!  So glad I stopped by. (found this through Rocks in My Dryer…)

]]> By: Jennifer http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6067 Jennifer Sat, 14 Jun 2008 20:35:01 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6067 <p>Hi, came over from Rocks in my Dryer. <br /> This is excellent. I find that a lot of my parenting of my passionate, strong-willed daughter is in managing her expectations. She does not take well to changes in plans, particularly if the changes are disappointing...she has trouble moving on. She does much better when she knows what to expect, when I warn her of transitions, when I note that we MAY do such-and-such if the planets align, etc. (The “wished for outfit in the hamper” scenario is exactly the kind of thing that could make her go 0 to 60 in a few seconds.) </p> <p> And then I started noticing that I myself get rather irritated and, ahem, grumpy when MY plans change at the last minute...and when my (usually unspoken! my poor husband!) expectations are not met. I don’t fall down on the floor screaming like my 5 year old used to (and still does once in a awhile)...but sometimes I feel like it. </p> <p> I did have a year-long temper tantrum at God some time ago...because my expectations were not met. I wonder how many crises of faith come from incorrect expectations of who God is and what He *should* be doing. </p> Hi, came over from Rocks in my Dryer.

This is excellent. I find that a lot of my parenting of my passionate, strong-willed daughter is in managing her expectations. She does not take well to changes in plans, particularly if the changes are disappointing…she has trouble moving on. She does much better when she knows what to expect, when I warn her of transitions, when I note that we MAY do such-and-such if the planets align, etc. (The “wished for outfit in the hamper” scenario is exactly the kind of thing that could make her go 0 to 60 in a few seconds.)

And then I started noticing that I myself get rather irritated and, ahem, grumpy when MY plans change at the last minute…and when my (usually unspoken! my poor husband!) expectations are not met. I don’t fall down on the floor screaming like my 5 year old used to (and still does once in a awhile)…but sometimes I feel like it.

I did have a year-long temper tantrum at God some time ago…because my expectations were not met. I wonder how many crises of faith come from incorrect expectations of who God is and what He *should* be doing.

]]> By: Krista http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6066 Krista Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:31:48 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6066 <p>This one speaks to me.  I gotta stop placing all the blame on my husband and realize that most likely my expectations are some (or most) of the problem.  Maybe if I lay off he’ll want to do more on his own… </p> This one speaks to me.  I gotta stop placing all the blame on my husband and realize that most likely my expectations are some (or most) of the problem.  Maybe if I lay off he’ll want to do more on his own…

]]> By: Geneva http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6065 Geneva Thu, 12 Jun 2008 16:30:33 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6065 <p>I’m beginning to think Becky is a genius.  Either that or she’s not real....  We never actually hear directly from Becky.  It’s always, “Becky thinks,” or “Becky has a theory”.... </p> I’m beginning to think Becky is a genius.  Either that or she’s not real….  We never actually hear directly from Becky.  It’s always, “Becky thinks,” or “Becky has a theory”….

]]> By: RevJeff http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6064 RevJeff Thu, 12 Jun 2008 15:32:39 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6064 <p>That was soooo much more than I expected to read here… not because I’ve come to have low expectations from you, or because I feel that you should be “BLOGGER A or B” it just really hits the proverbial nail… </p> <p> Peace, today! </p> That was soooo much more than I expected to read here… not because I’ve come to have low expectations from you, or because I feel that you should be “BLOGGER A or B” it just really hits the proverbial nail…

Peace, today!

]]> By: Biblefanmaryann http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6063 Biblefanmaryann Thu, 12 Jun 2008 14:38:22 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6063 <p>I go to my room and pout. lol </p> <p> Here’s a quote I thought of when you said something about trying to write 2000 perfect words a day… <br /> <br /> “Even in literature and art, no man who bothers about originality will ever be original: whereas if you simply try to tell the truth (without caring twopence how often it has been told before) you will, nine times out of ten, become original without ever having noticed it.” - C.S. Lewis </p> <p> Hope it encourages you! </p> I go to my room and pout. lol

Here’s a quote I thought of when you said something about trying to write 2000 perfect words a day…

“Even in literature and art, no man who bothers about originality will ever be original: whereas if you simply try to tell the truth (without caring twopence how often it has been told before) you will, nine times out of ten, become original without ever having noticed it.” – C.S. Lewis

Hope it encourages you!

]]> By: Racer http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6062 Racer Thu, 12 Jun 2008 03:37:42 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/06/expectations/#comment-6062 <p>This is a fabulous post. </p> <p> Thanks for the reminder. </p> This is a fabulous post.

Thanks for the reminder.

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