Comments on: Seriously.  I Like Her.  Really. http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/ Official site of Shaun Groves - musician, speaker, advocate for children living in poverty Wed, 23 May 2012 18:45:49 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Nancy Tyler http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7456 Nancy Tyler Thu, 27 Mar 2008 23:11:19 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7456 <p>Glad I’ve simplified your life, David. Your wife’s a lucky woman.  <img src="http://www.shaungroves.com/images/smileys/wink.gif" width="19" height="19" alt="wink" style="border:0;" /> </p> Glad I’ve simplified your life, David. Your wife’s a lucky woman.  wink

]]> By: David http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7455 David Thu, 27 Mar 2008 21:46:32 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7455 <p>Nancy, based on your advice, I now plan to do the following: </p> <p> 1) Not buy a house. <br /> 2) Not have room for my wife to buy tons of useless junk. <br /> 3) Save money! Woohoo! </p> <p> Oh wait, we’re gonna need extra space once we have kids. Darn. Hmmm… maybe the kids will hemorrhage all of the extra money from our accounts so that she can’t buy more junk… </p> <p> But seriously, how hard is it to say, “You mess it up, you clean it up?” That’s what I do. Every time we’re going to have company over, I simply take my two or three things off the coffee table that I forgot to put away, wait for her to get her junk off the floor, and then I vacuum. I figure after a while it’d be an incentive for her to make less mess - then there’s less work to clean it up. </p> <p> I mean, sure, my desk is messy, but we don’t entertain guests in the office. </p> Nancy, based on your advice, I now plan to do the following:

1) Not buy a house.

2) Not have room for my wife to buy tons of useless junk.

3) Save money! Woohoo!

Oh wait, we’re gonna need extra space once we have kids. Darn. Hmmm… maybe the kids will hemorrhage all of the extra money from our accounts so that she can’t buy more junk…

But seriously, how hard is it to say, “You mess it up, you clean it up?” That’s what I do. Every time we’re going to have company over, I simply take my two or three things off the coffee table that I forgot to put away, wait for her to get her junk off the floor, and then I vacuum. I figure after a while it’d be an incentive for her to make less mess – then there’s less work to clean it up.

I mean, sure, my desk is messy, but we don’t entertain guests in the office.

]]> By: Nancy Tyler http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7454 Nancy Tyler Thu, 27 Mar 2008 21:28:33 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7454 <p>If your wife is like me, it’ll only get worse once you buy a house, David.  The more space you have, the more room you’ll have to spread out the junk that you’ll buy to fill up that space. </p> <p> My husband and I had a two bedroom apartment and even with gang kids crashing there most of the time, the place was spotless--because he liked cleaning. As I look back, I think my big, strong Army man pretty much followed behind me around the house with a trash can in hand.  LOL </p> <p> I didn’t realize at the time how much he did with the cleaning. After he died, the apartment turned into an instant mess and I couldn’t figure out how it got that way so fast.  </p> <p> When I bought a house on my own a few years later, I thought I’d be more organized and neat. Nope. Having more square feet didn’t change my ways. I’m having to work really hard at that and I haven’t conquered it yet. It feels like a dumb thing to have to battle but that’s what I’m doing. </p> <p> Please be patient with the “Messie” in your home, David. It’s only now as I’m writing this that I realize how very patient Mike was with me. I was more blessed than I knew… </p> If your wife is like me, it’ll only get worse once you buy a house, David.  The more space you have, the more room you’ll have to spread out the junk that you’ll buy to fill up that space.

My husband and I had a two bedroom apartment and even with gang kids crashing there most of the time, the place was spotless–because he liked cleaning. As I look back, I think my big, strong Army man pretty much followed behind me around the house with a trash can in hand.  LOL

I didn’t realize at the time how much he did with the cleaning. After he died, the apartment turned into an instant mess and I couldn’t figure out how it got that way so fast. 

When I bought a house on my own a few years later, I thought I’d be more organized and neat. Nope. Having more square feet didn’t change my ways. I’m having to work really hard at that and I haven’t conquered it yet. It feels like a dumb thing to have to battle but that’s what I’m doing.

Please be patient with the “Messie” in your home, David. It’s only now as I’m writing this that I realize how very patient Mike was with me. I was more blessed than I knew…

]]> By: David http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7453 David Thu, 27 Mar 2008 19:48:42 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7453 <p>Can I borrow your wife? Because the only way I can get mine to do any cleaning is by insisting that we continue to host Bible Study at our apartment, thus forcing her to pick up after herself once a week for fear of embarrassment. Lord help us when we actually become homeowners… </p> Can I borrow your wife? Because the only way I can get mine to do any cleaning is by insisting that we continue to host Bible Study at our apartment, thus forcing her to pick up after herself once a week for fear of embarrassment. Lord help us when we actually become homeowners…

]]> By: Super Churchlady http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7452 Super Churchlady Mon, 24 Mar 2008 02:29:29 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7452 <p>Shaun - your mother-in-law is incredibly cool indeed. </p> Shaun – your mother-in-law is incredibly cool indeed.

]]> By: Carly http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7451 Carly Sun, 23 Mar 2008 18:16:37 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7451 <p>Shaun, thank you so much for spending this week with us at Brook Hill! You are not only a great speaker and musician but an inspiration and a great role model. Keep it up and I’ll look forward to seeing you sometime in the future! </p> <p> Carly </p> Shaun, thank you so much for spending this week with us at Brook Hill! You are not only a great speaker and musician but an inspiration and a great role model. Keep it up and I’ll look forward to seeing you sometime in the future!

Carly

]]> By: Cristy http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7450 Cristy Sun, 23 Mar 2008 12:28:46 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7450 <p>We’re having out of town company this week (Mon-Fri) and I asked my family to help me get the house cleaned up and ready for them.  (Dust, vacuum, clean capets, mop floors, etc.) My carpenter hubby always thinks “help me clean” means start 5 new projects and paint everything the week before… which makes it really hard to actually, you know, clean.  </p> <p> Glad to know there’s a title for his condition, because I accuse him of doing it just to stress me out!  And I guess I now know why he doesn’t like to sit at the dinner table and talk like the kids and I do.  Sometimes we’ll sit there for an hour after we eat, then turn it into a game of Uno or something. </p> We’re having out of town company this week (Mon-Fri) and I asked my family to help me get the house cleaned up and ready for them.  (Dust, vacuum, clean capets, mop floors, etc.) My carpenter hubby always thinks “help me clean” means start 5 new projects and paint everything the week before… which makes it really hard to actually, you know, clean. 

Glad to know there’s a title for his condition, because I accuse him of doing it just to stress me out!  And I guess I now know why he doesn’t like to sit at the dinner table and talk like the kids and I do.  Sometimes we’ll sit there for an hour after we eat, then turn it into a game of Uno or something.

]]> By: Rocks In My Dryer http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7449 Rocks In My Dryer Sun, 23 Mar 2008 04:24:25 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7449 <p>RFLOL!  I’m married to one of those over-achievers too.  It wears me OUT. </p> RFLOL!  I’m married to one of those over-achievers too.  It wears me OUT.

]]> By: anon4him http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7448 anon4him Sun, 23 Mar 2008 02:27:49 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7448 <p>I’m not an type-A overachiever, but I wish I were… I think I’ll need to study under one before I get married. </p> I’m not an type-A overachiever, but I wish I were… I think I’ll need to study under one before I get married.

]]> By: Grovesfan http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7447 Grovesfan Sun, 23 Mar 2008 01:15:19 +0000 http://shaungroves.com/2008/03/seriously-i-like-her-really/#comment-7447 <p>Yup.  I get it.  Same thing here.  And, I LOVE my mother-in-law dearly.  Great cook, wonderful friend, and gave me the best husband (and her best son) in the world. </p> <p> Beth </p> Yup.  I get it.  Same thing here.  And, I LOVE my mother-in-law dearly.  Great cook, wonderful friend, and gave me the best husband (and her best son) in the world.

Beth

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